For the next several weeks we will explore the topic of authenticity. I will be sharing tidbits of my upcoming 10-week workshop series: Journey to Authenticity. Did you miss last weeks article? View it – here.
In my 10-Week Journey to Authenticity series we spend 2.5 hours on this topic – with awesome handouts with actual ideas, and scripts to follow when you need to have ‘discussions’ with those around you. No one teaches us this stuff. We usually adopt our way of dealing with conflict from what we observed with our parents.
Inner and outer conflict that is not addressed can prevent us from attaining what we truly desire in life. We postpone our wishes, dreams and desires each time we create conflict for ourselves. And conflict can be our inner fears that get in the way. We are often unaware they even exist. Maybe we really don’t want to face them and then subsequently self-sabotage our lives.
When we begin to get to the root of the why and become more aware of our actions and reactions, we can begin to change. We want to find out what is beneath any need for drama or sabotage. What are we afraid of? Do we feel anger, lack of confidence, or unworthiness? Drama creates an adrenalin surge in the body. We can ask ourselves if we are addicted to the ‘high’ of conflict.
Repetitive negative thought patterns, unhealthy behaviours, and sabotage – douse the fire of our passion, deplete our energy and we may find it difficult to move forward. Eventually we get sick of this cycle and begin making changes. We might seek counselling, start to journal or make a choice to step back from drama, dramatic situations or dramatic people.
Consider this – your thoughts, create your reality. When we are aware of the way we are thinking and the thoughts we have most of the time, we will begin to understand why we have drama, conflict or self-sabotage in our lives. A chaotic mind produces chaos outwardly. The best way to bring about change begins on the inside. We can’t change anyone else – all we can do is our own work. And the reward of peace and ease in our lives is incredible!
I often share one of my favourite Dr. Wayne Dyer quotes in my classes: “When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change.” Try it – it works.
The way we view conflict, can change – perhaps it is a real opportunity for growth; inner growth and to deepen all the relationships around us.
Join me for the 10 week series that begins in one month on January 24, 2019.