In case you are feeling out of sorts lately and facing big challenges – this week’s article will help shed some light on why. Many of us are in the muck of it. Our hot buttons are being pushed, knee jerk reactions flaring up, and triggers galore. So what do we do? We are taught to override how we feel, suck it up, stuff it way and compartmentalize it. We instinctively want to run and hide from our fears, patterns and ‘stuff’ – yet; here it is – squarely in our faces.
Some of our practices may even be ‘spiritual bypasses’. We may hear phrases such as:
“You create your reality”
“Fix your thoughts if you are in pain”
“This is all an illusion”
Is this helpful? Can we simply be more present to one another’s wounds and hurts; hold space and stand in the fire with them? To patiently listen without words, or trying to fix it. Can we open our hearts to express compassion and empathy?
I have found that growth often occurs in this way: we expand into something great, we feel inspired grateful and on track. And then BOOM – what the heck just happened? We are back in the thick of it again.
To expand we must contract. It’s just the way it works.
Caroline de Lisser has this to share:
“So many are going through major growth transitions right now. Broken dreams, broken hearts, broken contracts, wake up calls, identity crisis etc. It seems to be a time for major shifting and this new moon alludes also to this… It is a time for many to shed old skins that fit too tightly. With these powerful and growthful junctures in life, we are called to stretch our comfort levels, to develop courage, will power, faith and trust in what wants to be birthed in our life.
Labour pains are no fun but a soon to be mother looks forward to her baby coming and accepts the pain that she has to go through for that miracle to occur.
If we thought of our own re-birthing in the same way, we’d shift from self induced suffering to expectancy, our willingness would strengthen our courage and ignite understanding so we’d be more likely to take right action… And though it’s never easy, we’d also be more able to accept the loss of attachments and cooperate with the changes that want to take us to the next level.
It’s a paradigm shift that is ready to happen.
So when things get tough, consider taking a deep breath and instead of reacting from fear and projections, sit with it, question the motives of change, ask it what it has come to reveal to you, to teach you… If you are willing to look at yourself and your life objectively, you will know what needs to go, what needs to open and what needs to be birthed….
Once you do this, you can meet the storm as an ally not a curse and you will be able to see the role you played in calling it in…The lightening will then have a direction, it will burn up the dead wood instead of extinguishing your life force….
But always allow yourself to feel and grieve the pain of loss, allow your heart to be torn open, it’s a necessary and important ingredient in the alchemy… But keep moving through it so that you can claim the beautiful distillation of heart and soul that is waiting for you at the other side. This is how your power finds you.”
Keep showing up for yourself time and time again.
Be patient with your growth – you are worth it.
I wish you an abundant summer filled with much love, passion and adventure. As always I am here to support you in this life journey – and welcome your feedback.