From my recent appearance on CKWS you will see I didn’t get to finish what I wanted to share about kissing. Here it is everyone – get ready to pucker up!
Here are seven kissing techniques for you:
#1 Kissing foreplay.
Before the kiss, touch a little first. Stoke your lovers face and hair. Hold hands. Gaze into one another’s eye to connect more deeply. Hold hands, embrace, snuggle. These details create excitement and anticipation before you go in for the kiss.
#2 Make your lover yearn for your lips with a little teasing.
Start by letting your lips linger in front of your lover’s lips for a breath or two. Feel your lover’s gentle breath linger over your lips and around your mouth. Take time to feel the subtle energy between you and your lover—enjoy this stillness and quiet. Pease don’t rush to kiss them. Build up some excitement. Make them beg silently for your kiss. And then, when you are ready, brush your lips up against theirs, but only slightly, giving them a taste of what is coming.
#3 Go very slowly.
Now that you’ve lingered a bit, you can move into some slow gentle kissing. Remember, kissing can be one of the most sensual acts that exists. Go very slowly. Slow your kissing pace down to an excruciatingly slow one, building up to a deeper and more intense experience.
Do not introduce the tongue right away, begin with small slow kisses (remembering to breathe, don’t hold your breath). Explore your lover’s lips. Taste them in every cell of your body. Go slowly, so slowly that you feel your partner wanting more, but knowing you have all the time in the world to build up the intensity.
Using your breath during kissing allows the sensual energy to flow up through your body and chakras, eventually syncing with each other to create a beautiful flow of energy that connects you at a deeper level. There’s no special breathing. Simply don’t hold your breath. This is a simple practice that allows for the energy to flow through your entire body, connecting you with your lover at all three centres.
#5 Alternate between slow and sensual, and hard and rough.
Now that you’ve mastered the art of slow kissing and things are getting hot and heavy, it’s time to alternate between slow kissing and firmer kissing. Introduce a harder, more predatory kiss. Perhaps you gently scratch your lover’s back while your tongue enters their mouth with more force. Perhaps your breathing is deeper, and your sounds are louder (yes, sound is welcome during kissing). Perhaps you gently bite your lover’s lip, or you bite their neck, bringing out your inner wild side. Alternate between this style of kissing, the yearning and lingering and the slow kissing.
#6 Eye contact, eye contact, eye contact.
You saw this in my video. The eyes are the windows of the soul and we connect very deeply this way.
It is very hot when your lover looks you in the eyes and holds your gaze. Not everyone is comfortable with this, so if the thought of it makes you upset, let yourself begin to get more comfortable with it in smaller increments, because eye contact is crucial for mind-blowing sensual kissing intimacy. So, if you feel like the kissing is getting increasingly hot and heavy, and you want to slow down, slowly pull away, open your eyes and wait for your lover to do the same. Now hold their gaze, and be truly present with each other. Simple eye gazing can bring about orgasm (yes, I am using that word) without any touching or kissing—it’s such a powerful and beautiful way of connecting and a true form of intimacy. Try also kissing with your eyes open; one of the most erotic and sensual ways to connect.
#7 Use sound.
Sound activates our deeper senses. When we allow ourselves to let go, the sound of kissing is beautiful, erotic and more powerful. Sounding activates the vagus nerve in the body that helps move the energy of pleasure through the entire body.
*I found an article by Juliet Allen that inspired me to share this.
I wish you an abundant 2018 filled with much love, passion and adventure. As always I am here to support you in this life journey – and welcome your feedback.